Wednesday, September 2, 2009

30 Something and Counting. Learning Something New Daily.

I've decided to document my obsessions and thoughts about being an educated, professional, black, single female. I hope you enjoy the Chronicles - not sure what you will get these days. I tend to go from feeling extremely focused to simply crazy and erratic.


Today, I woke up feeling inspired about all the possibilities of life...I have a a myriad of work deadlines I will tackle today and check off the list. Gold star for me. But beyond how I fund my fabulous life and it is quite fabulous not to gloat, I've decided that I should learn something new each day and that truly is the goal. I need to learn something that is valuable and fruitful each day. I've decided to brush up on my language skills and even tackle a new one - Spanish. Anyone interested sending me tips on how to expand my conversational Spanish vocabulary?

What Men Want - Solve the Riddle!

I'm perplexed on so many levels after a friend recently told me I need to dumb it down to get a date. Really? Dumb it down he says...This got me to thinking and as I started a very informal poll of other male colleagues, friends, associates and even some strangers, I realized he might be on to something. The results are resounding - some men really want women to not necessarily dumb it down, but pretend they know less than they do, are super helpless and or we are clueless, but of cute no less.

I don't think men want us to dumb it down or do they? Do tell...What on earth do you want?

Like my other wonderful freinds - married and single - I've spent countless hours (if you think about the number of hours we spend talking about amongst ourselves, watching Oprah, reading books, talking to our male friends, brothers, colleagues, etc.) trying to figure out what men want. We hear they are simple beings, but are they really? Sometimes yes and other times no. If they are so simple, we should just do what Steve Harvey recommended on a recent episode of Oprah - love him, support him and engage him physically. Yes, we can do all those things without speaking or thinking and it seems easy enough. At least sometimes. But clearly, it's not enough. Sorry, Steve Harvey is not really an authority on the subject anyway, but that's for another post.

Should we take it back to the 50's when the divorce rate was much lower and families stayed together? That was a fun time. Women were always dolled up - gotta love a hot mom in makeup serving up a lovely caserole from fresh organic veggies and the best meat in town. I guess this no longer works since we (us girls) at least some of us, want equal rights/equal pay. I've been considering giving up this fight too. I can be cute everyday and just have dinner ready except that I want to be paid for it. LOL.

Before I ramble about all my opinions on the topic. Will the men, if and only if the know, please help me solve the riddle.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Michael Vick - Vick-tim, PETA & Public Example of Just Another Black Man in Jail

I was astonished, well not really, by the amount of coverage on Michael Vick's federal sentencing of 23 months in jail for his involvement in dogfighting. I respect and honor good and speedy journalism, but I started wondering about the real implications of Michael Vick's incarceration. I present my collection of thoughts on the topic. Yes, I have an opinion just like the rest of you.:-).

What are the implications for the sports community, the NFL, the Falcons and Atlanta? Undoubtedly, the NFL may no longer make as much money since it has lost quite a valuable asset. That's what the business person in me says. The Falcons have certainly felt the impact of this gentleman's absence. Fewer games won, empty seats in the dome and ticked off fans and players. But it has to be more than that...Do people really care about the dogs? Do they really care about Michael Vick? Do they really care that he lied? Or, do they only care about the financial implications?


What about the impact of this behavior on the community. Is Michael Vick really a role model to little Jack and Jill? Maybe just to those little boys who want to play football and be the world's greatest quarterback. Or, would little Jack just be encouraged to be like Favre (my all time favorite to be honest) anyway? He's an all American guy. Michael Vick is just a quarterback with quick feet and mad handles. And wait, he's also a strategic thinker. That's what they usually call quarterbacks. Unfortunately, as much as the athletes and celebrities say they are not role models, they are. To much is given, much is required. Maybe parents should be the ultimate role models, but America has taught us well, to idolize athletes, models, actors, actresses, CEO's and the likes. Tough responsibility, but not unattainable.

And whatever happen to the notion of not squealing? Have we become so selfish as human beings that we have to rat out others when we get caught. Man up! Woman up! If you do the crime; suffer the consequences. Why implicate other people for lighter sentences? Ah wait a minute...our legal system encourages that...if you tell, we'll let you off sooner. No folks. I mean no, Black men. At the end of the day, you to are just another black man in jail and your value was diminished the moment someone thought, "If only we can take down the big man on campus." Now, they have you all +1 in jail. Another one bites the dust. T.I. better take note; looks like he's next. Brilliant strategy! Can you call this black-on-black crime? Take a moment and ponder that as you listen to the lyrics in JayZ's latest album. Yes, he gives a few insights about squealers. Let him learn you.

Wow and now PETA has a platform. It never hurts to have free advertising and now there is a great name (celebrity recognition, Michael Vick) to boost the organization's name recognition and plight. The world's most highly paid athlete got caught doing the unthinkable. As I dog lover, I am repulsed by this behavior, but really folks, did this warrant nearly two years in jail. Did the PETA class make Vick more sensitive to animals? I don't think so. And to be honest, neither does going to jail. However, it will make Vick think about the company he keeps or even better, what he could have done to keep it a secret.


I hope this is not just another case in - He's just another Black man, throw him jail. Even if he told the truth, which he should have, the same penalties would have resulted if you look at history. Perhaps some folks are just a little upset that he lied to them. How dare you lie and exhibit defiance? Are you crazy? For that alone, you will go to jail. Michael? Didn't you know the consequences?


They made an example of Vick just like they did with Martha Stewart who did the unthikable. NOT! I bet Michael Vick will think twice about the next set of folks he calls friends. There seems to be no honor among gamblers and dogfighting participants.